parents oh parents~

innalillah...

after having to go through such plight, is it fair for us to say to his family "lesson learned, housewife is the best job for a mom.. muhasabah diri for your family and everyone else.. "? 

encouraging huh?

i've been reading alot of similar statements written by dear parents, reminding people about THE SOLUTION - a mother should be a housewife, full stop.

honestly, it's their right to say what they thought right though.. in fact it's applicable to anyone..

but.. is it fair to judge other parents by not having to be in their shoes? 

dear parents, accept the fact, we are not living in an ideal world.

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question...

No doubt the best educators for our kids are none other than the parents.. but do all parents know what best for their kids? 

jeng keng jeng...

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ramai jer anak2 berjaya having working parents and banyak jer remaja bermasalah from family with their mom as suri rumah.. to be fair, and vice versa..

Even so, berjaya or not, is subjective =)

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"suri rumah vs ibu yang menjadi cikgu", who can guarantee one is better than the other pada pandangan Ya Rabb? 

Allah itu maha adil, berat or ringan sesuatu pahala is for Him to decide..

and who can predict whose kid will do better in life?

as parents, unless you're completely retarded dan patut kene flush dalam toilet, siapa yang tak nak tgk anak berjaya dan berguna kepada agama, bangsa dan negara kan.. cewahh~

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some people had to put loads of effort utk melihat anak berjaya, but there are still some lucky parents yang tak perlu bersusah payah, dapat anak taat, pandai and with good future (macam hit jackpot gittew~ heip, berjudi itu haram ya).. hoho

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what about all these misfortunate cases - budak being ill treated kat taska, maid dera suruh togok sustagen sampai pitam,  etc? 

Rezeki dan ujian Allah datang dalam pelbagai bentuk.. bersyukurlah that we are not being tested to such..

even with both parents at home, despite all the safety measures taken, things can still go really wrong.. even infront of our very eyes..

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what about housewife with 1 kid vs housewife with 3 kids.. will the prior be of better care than the later? **wink wink..

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We (my wife and I) do believe that there's no absolute solution to parenting.. 

when we first took up this job as parents, we do realise that it's a non-linear-life-learning curve for us.. 

at the end of the day, we, parents to our kids will dictate what best for them.. we do make mistakes at times but we always reminded ourselves, as long as we learned and move forward, in sya Allah we'll be better.. 

indeed..

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my take:

whether you decided to be a housewife, or a working mom, have faith in what you do.. don't let perceptions interfere your good effort in bringing up your own children, your own way.. it's not going to be easy, there'll be stumble and falls.. we just need to get up and be cautious not to fall on the same humps.. 

but remember, we propose but Allah's The One who dispose..

kami mendoakan semoga Allah memberkati all the good things all parents do untuk membesarkan anak2 mereka

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kepada en. Norman sekeluarga, takziah dan banyakkan bersabar..

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last but not least, we like to believe that there is no such thing as THE ULTIMATE SOLUTION =)

happy parenting!! cheers!

motip membesar bagaikan johan??

bila mommy dlm jamban:

• Adriana: "where are you mommy??" **sambil ketuk pintu toilet

whenever she sees kids and come near them:

• Adriana: "hye friend!" sambil hulur tangan nak sentuh friend..

pastu bila mommy tanya "Adriana, where's phone??'' terus dia jawab

• Adriana: "WHERE ARE YOU PHONE??" sambil blakon tgh cari fon, padahal dia baru main or she's hiding it behind her back.. teasing mommy..

kalau tgh menyusu, tetiba mommy tanya:

• Mommy: "do u want donut?"
• Adriana: "bye bye tsu tsu (susu)!" terus tutup baju mommy.. hahahha

and kalau nak umpan dia kluar toilet:

• Mommy: "adriana, do you want biscuit?"
• Adriana: " bye bye toy!!" sambil letak balik wat ever toy yg dia main

Bila main2 pastu terkena mommy:

• Mommy: "aw, hurt~" **sambil buat2 nanges
• Adriana: "sorry mommy" .. tapi kalau masa tuh dia tgh merengek or menanges, sorry tetap say sorry tapi sambil nanges.. hahahaha 

bila nak tido and log off FaceTime:

• Adriana: "nite nite, see ya!!"

When she's doing forbidden things (contoh: tabur bedak mcm tinkerbell tabur sparkle, tenyeh lipstik mommy everywhere mcm pemadam pensel, main celah kepala katil sampai tersangkut kepala x bole kluar etc)

• Mommy: "ADRIANA!!!" **sambil terjegil mata.. 
• terus Adriana jawab: "I SAID NO!" sebelum mommy dia sempat sebut the same sentence.. hohoho

in general..

kalau ada benda dia geli - "EEEEEEE, YUCK-KE!!"*sambil buat muka

kalau nak suruh on lampu or sound ipad - "mommy, light!"

kalau sakit - "mommy, hurt"

berak or kencing - "yak yak!"

if she's hungry or thirsty - "mommy, i want eat / dink (drink)"

and recently she saw her mommy moving the iron board, tetiba:

• Adriana: "be careful mommy!".. awww

gosh, she's growing too fast indeed.. repeating apa yg dia nampak or dgr..

sebab tuh now we are very careful with our words when she's around.. takut dia parrot benda2 terlarang.. hoho.. bahaya betul.. mulut daddy bukan boleh pecaya.. eh..

gosh can't wait for november!!

her interpretation of "smile"

Belated raya & mini celebration~

my my my.. banyak rupanya unpublished posts left as draft.. mostly halfway written lepas tuh either being forgotten or aborted sbb tersumbat idea tak memanchut.. huhuhu.. jamban sangat kan..

but since this one is pretty recent, maybe it shouldn't be wasted.. n here you go..
can't remember when it was first drafted, but it should be sometime between second weekend of recent raya..

HENJOY!

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penatnya~ (dah kenapa intro2 terus penat?)

**sambil mengesot celah TV cari remote

it's amazing how raya could drain the very last drop of your energy.. despite all you do were merely entertaining the guests, isi kuih raya dalam balang, bagi duit raya, or just cascading the news that mee goreng dah nak abis (subtle way of saying "tolong goreng more mee please~"**sambil buat signal mata pusing2 3x bagi menandakan "emergency").. huhu

and yes, that was as of yesterday..

had a small open house for close family members & friends.. al maklumlah, teratak kami pun sekangkang kera (rasanya u ols kangkang lagi luas kot, eh), so some had to populate the stairs, stand or duduk sambil buat saf mcm sembahyang jemaah (without leaving any space bigger than a lamb yang membolehkan syaitan menyelit ketika menunaikan solat).. depend on the timing, but 2-4pm was the peak..

since Adriana will be flying back to Sydney next tuesday and her next home trip will only be next April, we took the opportunity to throw her a simple cake-cutting-ceremony, to celebrate her 2nd birthday in advance (padahal daddy yg excited lebey ken~).. kira menyelit la dgn the raya open house..

apapun credit goes to Ariana's grandparents, unties, uncles, nieces, nephews and not forgetting, her dearest mommy, preparing the food/setup/keeping everyone addressed, making the whole day event an owh-so-awesome-but-tiring one.. daddy cuma incharge of the deco and menyibuk mana yang perlu.. hohoho.. 

kek dari secret resepi sajork, sbb Wondermilk tutup.. crown candle tuh gigeh mommy bawak dr OZ.. kalau ikutkan daddy nak pakai lilin umah yg biasa pasang masa takder letrik tu jer..

and here's the birthday girl.. and her mom **feeewiiit2~

missing 'em both..

raya is partly about being together dan mengiratkan silaturrahim indeed..

ah how we love raya.. 

Salam Lebaran Peeps!!